Have you gotten through so far without losing someone you love, without losing someone you need, or without losing someone you thought is a relationship of a lifetime?
I have lost someone I love, I have lost someone I need, and I have also lost a few relationships that I believed will last a life time. But it is these scares and losses that made me stronger. Eventually they made me ready for future opportunities, love and happiness.
Over the past 2 and a 1/2 decades, I have been forced to cope with several hardships that placed principles of money and power above everything else. We have grappled with human weaknesses like lust that led to unexpected financial loss, the loss of a great friend to insecurity, breakdown in a relationship where greed replaced fairness, betrayal from a business partner, and close people distancing themselves in our times of need.
Each one of these experiences were brutal. Each of them, unsurprisingly, knocked me down and surprisingly, never veered me off course. There certainly was a time of mourning after each brutal experience.
As the mourning got over, I pressed forward – Stronger, harder, with greater understanding and respect for life, with greater determination to succeed, love and to be happy.
To face these brutal experiences, here are some realizations that helped me in finding ‘cosmos strength’ in bouncing back. I pray these realizations are helpful to you too…
1) No matter what happens, my future is always an empty note book. My past habits, my past mistakes, my past failures are NOT me. The step I take NOW is the most crucial step of my life.
2) Think big but have plans for today. Everyday, achieve something. This is the greatest energy booster.
3) Its ok to be chaotic for a little while. I don’t have to pretend to be strong. I NEVER say sorry for my tears. They are so genuine. They are ME in those moments. In fact, I cry loud. There is only one self imposed condition. I never cry for the same thing, TWICE. Once must be ENOUGH. And yes, once I have cried my heart out, it is ridiculously easy to smile.
4) I need this. This is my conviction for every experience of my life. I think I need this experience. My thoughts are this way – What if, what I am going through, is exactly what I need, for a great life ahead? This ensures, I am happy. That ensures, I am driven. That in turn ensures, I embrace success. And the cycle of happiness – self drive – success continues without any halt.
5) I am not alone. Everyone has issues. Each one of us is facing it, our own way. This realisation ensures I am never ‘ever’ dysfunctional. Even when I am going through an avalanche of emotions and chaos, I still am appreciatively efficiently functional.
6) Moving on is ok, giving up is not ok. Moving on, means a new beginning. Giving up, means I am still holding on to the past. Moving on is the rule of life, giving up is not. Moving on is strength, giving up is weakness. In moving on I am happy and look forward to life. In giving up, I am sad and look behind often in life.
I know you are doing your best to live better, to love more, to be responsible, to think clear, to take right decisions, to be cheerful, to share, and to live a life of values. Wishing you all the very best.
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